What Different Does

BFFs and the Sin of Partiality

in A Different Life

A heart broken in two, hanging from two chains. On one slice the word “best,” on the other “friend.” One hand stretched out to another saying, “your my BFF,” as all the other little eyes look on longingly, wondering why they didn’t get a half of the heart they longed for. I’ve watched it over and over again, the presenting of the best friend to the rest of the world. But what seems like a wonderful relationship between two girls can actually create feelings of separation, isolation and rejection in…read more

I Need a Personality Upgrade

in A Different Life

A while ago I told a friend that she talked too much. We were sitting in a circle during a book club and the topic of conversation turned to listening and the importance of it in relationship to others. And as she droned on and on, I finally couldn’t take it any more and so I told her, in my most detached clinical psychologist voice, “you have a problem with words. You use too many of them!” Of course, everyone was stunned. The room went silent. After all, who says that…read more

Do You Need Me? (please say yes)

in A Different Life

I once heard a missionary tell a story of a woman who came up to him after he had given a talk about the mission field at a small country church. The old woman thanked him for his words and said she wanted to give him something very special to her. She then handed him a white Bic pen with a black cap, the kind you can buy in a 10 pack for a couple of dollars. As she held out the pen and smiled, he could see how much…read more

The Power of Empathy

in A Different Life

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